my heart vs. my head


Well, I made it through the weekend...they're gone.  All packed up and moved out.  I have to admit my life feels a little like this today...

I did really well as we helped them pack up and then unload.  I only allowed myself tears after they left.  Their new apartment is nice, the neighborhood is safe, they are excited and happy, so my head knows it's time but my heart is a different matter.

I know it will catch up.  I have given myself a day of dramatic sighing and sadness but tomorrow when I start dreaming of this new life with time to myself and uninterrupted time with my hubby I know the color and joy will return.

My six year old grandson's parting words to me were, "It's kind of hard to move."  Yes, Andrew it is kind of hard to move but change is a necessary and exciting part of life.  And we will both be just fine.

xo, Patty


  1. I hope you find all sorts of little joys today to ease you back into the good empty nest life :)

  2. Oh hang in there. I know your heart is heavy. See you Wed.???

  3. Patty, I bet your heart was in your throat when Andrew said that. Hugs for you today will get easier.Blessings, xoxo,Susie

  4. I fully understand your sadness . . . sometimes it is hard to get the head and the heart going in the same direction.
    Here's wishing you a speedy recovery. My eight year old granddaughter is also my pen pal. We have been pen pals for the last two years and it is so much fun, maybe that is something your grandson would like to do with you:)
    Just a thought,
    Your blogging sister,
    Connie :)

  5. Oh my goodness, Patty. I'm sure you will miss that precious little six-year-old. Little ones bring such joy into our lives. Hopefully you will visit and he will come to visit you, too. Susan

  6. Oh Patty!! My heart feels your heart!! I went through this very same thing in August. It hurt ...but yet it was good. It's for the best, but the heart feels strange. I needed time for myself...but the hurt is real. I'm better now...but I still miss them. I see my two granddaughters a lot...but I miss the little things i got used them crawling in bed with me at 5 or 6 in the morning and cuddling and then they go back to sleep. I miss all the hugs and kisses throughout my day. I miss squeezing all three of us in the chair and sharing a good read! Goodness!! But they're 10 minutes away and I get my "fix" when I need it!! :D Love love love children....especially my own grandchildren!! :D ....So I do understand how you feel, little friend! I also can say that it does get better...I can get so much more done now without the extra work of children. Sometimes as a grandmother, it's a little harder to stay up on things as when I was a young momma!! :D


  7. Aww...I got a lump in my throat reading this. I understand those feelings. It is exciting but also a bittersweet moment in life. xo Diana

  8. My heart hurts for you... I can only imagine. It has been tough having our older daughter in college away from us. Each time we see each other, leaving is hard but I am getting used to it. Sending hugs.

  9. Definitely a tough one and a day for some well deserved tears, but how fun it will be to be able to visit with them in THEIR home!

  10. I hear you. We became empty nesters last month when Victoria got married. It requires a shift in thinking and priorities when your kids head off into their own life! Happily your kids are close enough to visit aren't they? You'll see them, and you'll soon get used to free time!

  11. Awwww.. so hard to let them go.
    Good to know that their new place is nice and safe. That's a comfort, I know.



  12. Patty,
    "Parting is such sweet sorrow". . .
    I know you are happy for them, but I'm sure you feel as if your heart has just been ripped from your body, too.
    Prayers for comfort and peace.
    Precious words from your grandson!

  13. Wise words to your grandson. So hard to have this change but now new things can wander in. :) Kit

  14. Oh my gosh Patty, I missed this post! I am SO thinking about you!!!!! You know I am!!
    xo Kris


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