When we moved last winter I quickly discovered how much I would miss my community of girlfriends and our planned times of togetherness. Making new friends as we age is certainly more difficult than when we have young children and there are natural meeting points like school pick ups and little league fields.
I soon realized that without these built in gatherings of women I was going to have to get creative in finding my new community of local friends.
What I did have nearby was family. So in my typical type A (read pushy) way I set about creating intentional get togethers to do the things that I missed doing plus a few I always wanted to do.
And so what I affectionately call the "Granny Skills Club" was born.
Once a month I get together with my mom, sister in law and niece and we practice or learn a new skill together. We have learned water bath canning, basic quilt making, sewing an apron, preserving lemon curd and this week we are taking on the perfect pie crust, just in time for our holiday baking.
My niece gifted me with Kate McDermott's gorgeous book, Art of the Pie and it seemed fitting that we take our lesson from her. We are attempting her traditional all butter crust and quintessential apple pie filling this week. She offers both a handmade and food processor addition of the all butter crust and we will be trying them both.
I love the idea of coming together as women. In days gone by this would have been a normal thing to do as a community. Whether it was around the quilting table or cutting board these gatherings were the place where life's joys and concerns were discussed and advice and encouragement were given.
I believe these in person gatherings are needed now more than ever. As we four come together around the kitchen table we are gaining so much more than new skills, we are gaining the community built around doing them together. And that just might be the biggest reward of all.
xo, PattySomething about the times we are living in has me longing for days gone by. Not centuries ago, although that sounds lovely as well, but the days of my early adulthood and marriage. You know the good old days of the 80's and 90's. (Technically I guess that was a different century but in my mind it can't have been more than 20 years ago.)
Do you remember the days of Romantic Homes, Country Living and Victoria magazines? The days when we looked to still pictures in books and monthly publications for our tips and style inspiration. The days before fast moving reels and flashing images? The days when you went to a thrift store and old dishes cost a dollar or two?
Our move last winter was a considerable downsize for us and I was brutal in the editing of my possessions. Countless sets of glassware, dinner plates and serving bowls found their way to the donation center. There is nothing like a move to motivate you to reassess everything you've accumulated over the years.
Long forgotten about boxes of chintz china and teacups that fell out of style, were unearthed from a previous move and lovingly hand washed and repackaged to be brought to our new home. No longer concerned with the latest decorating trends they are proudly out on display and I am determined to use them routinely.
This year, as this brutally hot summer comes to a close, I am excited to reconnect with my love of the art of afternoon tea. Nothing fancy but a purposeful slow down with a fine china cup and saucer, a little sweet treat, a time of quiet contemplation, a good book to read or the browsing of an actual magazine. A little time just for me.
Or perhaps I will send a handwritten note to a friend (there was no text messaging in the good old days) and invite her over to join me? Nothing says hospitality like tea and conversation, don't you agree?
Just because this world seems to be spinning faster and faster, doesn't mean we have to hop on for the ride.
We are still in control of what happens under our roof and between our four walls and if I want to go back in time to circa 1985 and open up one of my treasured Mary Engelbreit magazines, then by goodness that's just where you'll find me.
The outside world will intrude eventually, but until it does, here's to the good old days.
xo, Patty
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