a new normal


Thank you for all the prayers and good thoughts this last week.  Your kind words truly touched my heart. 

We buried my father's body yesterday but his love will remain alive in our hearts always.   As a Korean War veteran he received a full military burial including color guard, taps and a 21 gun salute.  It was a fitting way to say good bye to such an honorable man.

Now our family must go on and find our new normal.  For me that means heading out to the garden.  It is one of the strongest connections I have with my father and I know it will be the place I feel his presence most.

He prided himself on his green thumb and I know he was pleased that I inherited it from him.

This metal bucket was my grandfather's from his days with the ATSF railroad.  I resisted the urge to put a few holes in the bottom to use as a planter (in hopes of preserving it) for the longest time but finally decided that it was better to use it with love than keep it safely put away.

I am so glad I did...I love the cottage charm it adds to the simplest annual planting.  My husband put together a couple of raised bed planters so today we will add the soil and begin our summer vegetable garden.  He also sectioned off a section for a picket fenced cutting garden.  Exciting stuff, right?

Enjoy your weekend...I hope it's delightful!

xo. Patty


  1. So sorry to hear about your father's death. What a wonderful thing to do with the galvanized bucket that was passed down from your grandfather. Wonderful cherished memories!

    Have a wonderful weekend!

  2. You have the right spirit to keep your dad's memories close. Thinking of you.

  3. Very beautiful garden, Patty. I do feel God's presence in the garden. In fact, gardening is a form of worship for me.
    You and your family continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
    Gardening - what a wonderful bond to have shared with your father.

  4. Such beautiful thoughts to describe your dad Patty. I can't think of a more meaningful way to spend time remembering your father than in your garden.



  5. Patty, I am so sorry to hear about your father's death. I'm sure it must be a very difficult time for you right now. I will keep you in my prayers!! I loved the photographs- so beautiful!!

  6. What would we do without our gardens as a healing place? Your dad could not have passed along a more worth while trait to you. Thinking of you. ~ Maureen

  7. I agree, the garden can be such a place of healing. Having your father's work bucket will bring to mind sweet memories of your dad too.
    Your father sounds like a man any girl would be proud of!

  8. So sorry to hear of your dad's passing! I do love it when we honor our veterans with the full respect that they deserve. We live close by to a funeral home and we can always tell when a veteran has passed. So glad your dad was said goodbye to with such a honored ceremony! Your garden is lovely!

  9. Sending you my thoughts and prayers, Patty.


  10. You have such a wonderful way with words . . .
    Now our family must go on and find our new normal . . .

  11. Wrapping you with warm thoughts and prayers as your heart heals and finds solace. Bonnie

  12. So sorry for your loss. I just lost my 92 year old grandfather last week also. I am with you in your sorrow. Prayers going your way:)

  13. Take care of yourself, Patty. I know how hard it is to lose a dear father.

  14. Prayers for your continued strength and comfort at this time.

  15. So sorry about your Dad...it is wonderful that your gardening will remind you of him. I'm sure he's smiling down on you out there. I have a bucket and wagon just like those...I use my bucket all the time in the garden to carry my tools and dirt around in! Have a great weekend!!

  16. It sounds like you had a wonderful funeral for your Dad. It is hard to find that new "normal". I will say to allow yourself to grieve. I kept myself so busy that I didn't have time to grieve and one day -a few years down the road- it REALLY hit me that he was truly GONE...and then I had to deal with it at that late date.

    My dad was a planter, too, and that is the legacy that he left me. It does make me feel close to him even after all these years! xo Diana

  17. I am glad you are keeping busy, it is so important after the loss of a loved one. My father also loved to garden, but I don't really have his green thumb. xo,

  18. Patty,
    Treasured items, such as your grandfather's bucket, will always keep your loved ones close in thought and in your heart! You will notice in my posts, many times,I tell when something belonged to a family member...and the great comfort I get from seeing those treasures. Heart strings attached to each and every one. The garden is the perfect place to meet your father's memory. Peace, I wish for you...in due time, for to everything there is a season!

  19. You've been in my thoughts and prayers, Patty. I dread the day I have to say goodbye to my father, if the circle of life goes as normal. I just try to make each day count and know none of us are promised tomorrow.

    I love galvanized containers and have quite a few that make me smile everytime I use them. Yours is simply adorable. I know your father would be proud.

  20. Patty...
    Still thinking of you, and sending warm thoughts and prayers your way.

    It is so hard to keep on keepin' on sometimes.

    I'm so glad that you have your gardens, and the gardening connection with your Dad to help you during this time.


  21. Take care Patty. Gardening is a wonderful legacy to pass along.

  22. Patty, you have been in my prayers. Seek solace in your garden and in your family. Lovely that your Dad had such a fitting tribute.

  23. What beautiful pictures!
    I love being surrounded by plants!
    Congratulations space.

  24. Patty, I am so sorry about your father. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  25. Patty I love the bucket. Simple reminders of someone so important in your life. A new normal is right. Takes a long time but you do find it.

  26. Thanks for visiting my blog I'm following you, too, now.
    I hope you will have a good evening--I'm sorry for your loss.

  27. I just read about your dad. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you can find such a sweet way to honor him and keep that connection.

  28. So sorry to hear of your loss. I am thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers. Hugs, Kit

  29. Dearest Patty-

    I am so sorry for your loss.
    They really were the last great generation, right?
    I feel exactly the same way.
    Our gardens are healing places.
    I have always thought my mother came to me in the wind.

    Bless you!

    White Spray Paint

  30. So sorry for your loss, Patty. I am thinking of you and sending deepest condolences.
    Helen x


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